People worry about how they want to raise their children. Their babies should be smart, strong, well-mannered, industrious, confident, and many other good qualities. Basically, we all wish for our kids to be winners. No one would dream of teaching to lose or to fail. Unfortunately, we are pushing so hard to make sure our special snowflake never has to feel the sting of coming up short at something, they are ill-equipped to handle adversity when it sneaks through our hovering. That may not happen until we turn them loose on the world, and then they are in emotional crisis because they never had to figure out how to bounce back from anything. If everyone gets a trophy just for showing up, they get no value out of their effort. Additionally, without a little adversity and struggle, winning seems empty as well if everyone gets the same reward. So in our battle to make every kid a champion, they never learn how to be good losers or winners.